Ms. Purple Date #8: The Professor

Wed, Jul 1, 2009

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love-purple-150x150a1The Professor and I started talking online when he added me to his favorites, and I returned the favor by commenting on his profile. He traveled a lot for his job, so we had made plans two weeks in advance and we emailed each other almost every night before that.  By the time we had met, I knew a lot about him, maybe too much. Whatever I didn’t know, google filled in the cracks. I found out he was leaving for the summer to teach at another university and I found information all about his relevant projects. Honestly, I knew too much, period–and for me to play it off like I was just getting to know him was going to be a challenge.

We initially planned for dinner, but every few days or so I’d get an email from my date suggesting alternate plans. He finally asked me to meet for drinks first. I thought, Wow, drinks and dinner? This is going to be a super-long date. What if I don’t like him after the first ten minutes? All you seasoned daters who are reading this can see what my future had in store for me, but I was completely clueless.

When we met he was cuter in person. We talked in the back of the restaurant for a while and he asked me about my job, where I lived, lots of basic questions- something I’m very familiar with as I tend to do that on dates myself. It’s a simple way to avert the attention on yourself, which is something I loath to do.

After we finished our drinks we headed out of the bar, I asked him if he was ready for dinner. He stopped, looked at me, and said, “Oh wow is it 8 already? You know, I’m just not feeling any sparks.”

I stopped for a second. “Huh?” It took me a few seconds to realize that the drink invitation was the test before moving onto dinner, and apparently he didn’t want to continue this date. Wow. Honestly, I wanted to pat my belly and say, “Don’t care! Momma’s hungry!” But I didn’t. So we said our awkward goodbyes and I sat in my car.

The first thing that went through my head is, “What did I do wrong?” Is it universal to immediately think that when someone isn’t interested in you? I think yes.

But when I think back to the guys I didn’t call back after the first date, there were tons of reasons why I didn’t pursue them. I wasn’t physically attracted. His personality wasn’t clicking with mine. He had a twitch. Touché.

So now, having been on the opposite end of the rejection stick, the big question is: do you prefer someone to tell you they’re not interested in you to your face, or would you rather receive the “thanks, but no thanks” email/text afterward? OR, would you rather not receive a call at all?

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Ms. Green Date #13: My Date with Mr. Confidence

Wed, Jul 1, 2009

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love-green1I met Mr. Confidence at a bar when I was out for my best friend’s 30th birthday. He came up to me and a group of my friends and introduced himself. He started chatting with me and asked to get to know me better. Unfortunately, his friends were leaving to go to another bar, so he asked for my number. I was so impressed with his confidence to directly come up to a group of girls, I immediately gave him my number. He texted me a couple hours later apologizing again for leaving so abruptly. I said that he should take me to dinner to make up for it, and he said it would be his pleasure. He called me two days later and we made dinner plans for the following week. 

On the night of the date I settled in at our table and waited until he finally arrived minutes later,and out of breath. It was raining and he had no umbrella, so he jogged to the restaurant. The first 10 - 15 minutes were a bit awkward because he was catching his breath and was a little drenched. I think he may have had some jitters too, so it felt good to be the calm and confident one. He looked good — he was bald (my new type!) in a button down black shirt and jeans.

We talked about our weekends, our family, our jobs — all the really good and safe first date topics. It was refreshing to have such light and easy conversation. He was very social and had a great laugh. He’s a fan of Family Guy, which is a show that I absolutely love. The only comment he made relationship-wise was that  he is usually attracted to tall, white women with colored eyes, which is me in a nutshell!

At one point during dinner, I guess I had a crumb on my lip and he discreetly let me know by motioning to it on his own lips and I really appreciated that subtle gesture.  We later talked about a second date at another that he liked in the neighborhood. The night ended early around 9:30 and with only two glasses of wine! I had a tiring weekend, and couldn’t handle any more liquor! He walked me to my car and gave me a hug and we said we’d be in touch. I definitely would like to go out with him again. He’s very social and lives up to his name. It was a great first date — light and easy, not too long or awkward, and it left me wanting more.

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UpDate Wednesday: All About His CONFIDENCE

Wed, Jul 1, 2009

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thefonzeUpdate Wednesday took a little break, but now we are back with great dates from Ms. Green and Ms. Purple.

If you ask a woman what are some of the best qualities a man can have, she will always respond confidence in her top three choices.  There is just something about a man who knows what he wants and is willing to build a bridge to get there.  It’s just so damn sexy!  Well for this Update Wednesday it is all about confident men who know what they want.  Ms. Green finds her own Mr. Confidence who won’t let a little rain keep him from his object of desire, and we have Ms. Purple who finds a Professor who confidently knows when it just ain’t working.

photo courtesy of www.boards.ie

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Healthy Mondays: The Scale

Mon, Jun 29, 2009

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SCALEWhile in San Diego last weekend, Ms. Green had mentioned she heard a report that if you weigh yourself everyday it keeps you on track of your diet because it keeps you conscience of what you are doing.  I immediately responded no way could I do that because when I had a scale I found my mood depended on the number I saw in the morning.  If it was a high number it was going to be a long day, and if it was a low number than I would indulge a little more because I had such a great number.  Regardless, if the number was good or bad I was still conscience of what I was putting in my mouth.  I tended to stay more focused.  Key word FOCUSED.

Here I am, 3 years since I threw out my last scale and I made the trip to Bed, Bath, and Beyond to purchase a new img_0041one.  First thing I learned, I gained 2 lbs since PALEO free San Diego.  Let me tell you, once you are off the PALEO wagon it’s difficult to get back on, but here I am getting back on.  Every morning I will log my current weight, what I weighed the day before, how much lost/gained, and how much more to lose. Throughout the day I will write what I ate, the time, and mood.

Countdown to Clockwork Orange continues.

P.S. I am incorporating turkey meatballs back into the diet.  I am now over chicken.

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Healthy Mondays: Progress with Paleo and Crossfit

Tue, Jun 16, 2009

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I entered back into the gym after 1 week of feeling sick.  I am not fully recovered but I like working out too much to stay away.  Killer work out today consisted of dead-lifts and pull ups via gymnastic rings. (My body hates me now).

Good news amici.  I am down  6-8 lbs. depending on the scale.  Bad news- I still don’t look like Iman.  Either way I am staying strict with Paleo before my big trip to San Diego  this weekend.  (The city that has blessed the world with its Carne Asada Fries.)
When I asked Emily, the trainer, about doing 2 a-days (2 workouts a day), she suggested it wasn’t worth it.  The more I work out the more hungry I would get and the higher chances of making bad choices. So I am sticking to a strict Paleo diet. but I am taking a break from the tuna and meatballs.  I feel sick when I try to eat them.  My body wants something else. (Is this why I ate a lot of breads yesterday?)

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COUNTDOWN TO CLOCKWORK ORANGE

Mon, Jun 15, 2009

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clockwork-orange1A Clockwork Orange.  I know what you’re thinking: “How can this possible tie into Healthy Mondays?”  Simply, I want to wear the all-white outfit for Halloween this year and look damn good doing it.  I am leaving out the blond wig but finding the fabulous eyelashes and bowler hat.  Now I have a goal: Super cute by Halloween.  Officially COUNTDOWN TO CLOCKWORK ORANGE.

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Healthy Mondays: 100 Push Ups Challenge

Mon, Jun 15, 2009

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hundredpushups-1Ms. Purple has decided to get back on the health kick and found a website to help do 100 push ups in six weeks.  Even though I am doing CrossFit  I still can’t do 100 push ups in a row.  I agreed to do them in the morning and stick with the schedule offered on the website Hundredpushups.com.  Who is signing up with us?

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Dating Warriors: 1st Trimester Report

Wed, Jun 10, 2009

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love-red1As we move into summer Green, Purple, and Yes me Goldie decided to reflect on the first trimester of dating. (A little late but better than never.) We have laid low in the dating scene due to being busier than ever but don’t fret miei amici we shall resume our dating adventures very soon.  First, lets take a look back at all we have learned, done, and will never do again.

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Ms. Green: Dating is a part time job

Wed, Jun 10, 2009

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love-greenDating is a part-time job. It takes a lot of effort and time to weed through online profiles, email potential dates, set up a phone call, and arrange the first date. Then there’s the first date preparation: at least 2 hours of grooming and primping and deciding what to wear. And then there is the date itself. If it’s a great one, you never want it to end. If not, you’re trying to figure out how fast you can possibly get out of it. I’ve been on 10 first dates and here is what I’ve learned so far:

*Have a phone call before you meet him. It will give you a better sense of his personality and will make you feel more comfortable when you meet.
*Don’t go out with guys that don’t show any teeth in their online photos. It’s because they have a gap tooth.
*You can ask someone out via text. Apparently that’s just what happens. Don’t fight it, just go with it. You can also reject someone via text if that’s how they’ve been communicating with you. It’s so easy!
*If he doesn’t call you after the first date, it really is because he’s not interested. Don’t call him - just move on.
*A gentleman does open doors for you.
*First impressions are everything. DO shower and look and smell your best - and watch your table manners.
*A coffee date is fantastic - you can always extend the date if you’re into him. Why not try a brunch date?
*Give the guy a chance and don’t overanalyze everything. It’s just a first date - you’re not marrying the guy!

And here is a list of what I need to work on in my next dates:

*I need to figure out how to get out of bad dates better. I don’t want to be impolite, but if I know it’s going nowhere, there is no need to stick around.
*I’m bored with the dinner or dinner/drinks date. I want to go on more creative first dates and would love any suggestions.
*The online dating route introduces you to a lot of people outside your social circle, but I’m having a hard time finding guys that have similar interests as me. Why can’t I just find a guy that wants to drink a cold beer and watch a game? (Maybe that’s more of a rant than something I can work on?)

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